Table of contents:
- 2. Conflict
- 3. Impudence and swagger in communication
- 4. Feigned simplicity
- 5. Deceit
- 6. Obsession with your person
- 7. Domination
- 8. Status and connections
- 9. Whiner
- 10. Stubbornness
2023 Author: Alfred Shackley | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-21 13:14
Everyone has negative traits. Usually they do not have a destructive effect on others and are compensated by the positive properties of a person. However, the behavior of some individuals does not fit into the coordinate system of normal people. A close acquaintance with them is problematic. There are certain signs that will help you recognize a bad person early on in communication. If a new acquaintance is endowed with several of them at once, it is worth preparing for unpleasant discoveries.
Unreasonable rudeness towards taxi drivers, waiters or sellers says the following about a person:
- attitude towards people is based on social inequality;
- asserts itself, humiliating others;
- poorly educated.
Possessing "conflict" thinking, an absurd person does not preserve either his own or other people's relationships. You can recognize it by the following features:
- thinks badly and speaks about the authorities and the "former", is in a quarrel with his relatives, neighbors and colleagues;
- unkindly discusses people in their absence, conveys gossip and rumors;
- gives comments and advice that provoke and deepen discord between people;
- allows himself rude, humiliating remarks and jokes.
3. Impudence and swagger in communication
Familiar addresses and gestures at the beginning of an acquaintance are not a manifestation of friendliness, but the level of a person's general culture. They will be followed by an impudent invasion of your personal space:
- offhand questions and tactless remarks;
- intrusive calls;
- the desire to cram in guests.
Such people are thick-skinned, it is important for them to receive without giving anything in return.
4. Feigned simplicity
When life brings you to a rustic-looking person, you should not lose your vigilance. Using the guise of a simpleton, you can get significant benefits. At the same time, the "simpleton" is covered by public opinion like armor. An imaginary simpleton easily allows himself:
- say unpleasant things;
- ask unceremonious questions;
- make various requests;
He will not study and strain himself, rather he will strain someone from his acquaintances.
To an outside observer, it seems meaningless and inexplicable. For a pathological liar, it is a comfortable and pleasant reality, he believes in his lies. Such people invent, do not say anything, say half-truths, grossly distort facts and words:
- to present yourself in the best possible light;
- explaining their unseemly actions;
- belittling the successes and positive qualities of other people in order to raise themselves against their background;
- substituting others, for example, colleagues, in front of their superiors.
If you catch them in a lie, they will defend it to the point of conflict, turning everything upside down and accusing the opponent of all sins.
6. Obsession with your person
A person is focused on his real and perceived merits. In any conversation, he will find an opportunity to praise his appearance, the decision made, the position in life, and brag about the successes of children (often exaggerated). Inflates its significance in every possible way. This ridiculous habit can be regarded as a sweet eccentricity, but he:
- requires an active reaction to your words;
- is jealous of the success of others, not tolerating positive feedback about them;
- as if by chance points people to shortcomings, giving rise to a feeling of self-doubt;
- only conveys reviews that are unpleasant to another person.
One must be careful with new acquaintances who compulsively offer their help. Often you will have to pay for the services rendered. In return, an authoritarian person gets:
- submission and control over others;
- a sense of superiority over them;
- the ability to manipulate, demanding gratitude for the kindness shown earlier.
8. Status and connections
A person who emphasizes his connections and capabilities evaluates himself and people from these positions. Communication has the following goals:
- collecting useful contacts;
- their use;
- inflating one's own importance in society and one's own eyes.
It is unlikely that a new acquaintance will be an exception for such a person.
The whiner does not suck energy from the interlocutor, but generously shares his negative. His speech begins and ends with complaints. He endlessly complains about life, fate and people. I am ready to "hang" on the phone for hours, finding free ears. Asks for advice, support and help. Such people can hardly be called bad, but their selfishness in the form of chronic whining can kill the best relationships.
A person is not able to admit mistakes:
- freezing stupidity, will insist on his own contrary to common sense;
- will get out of it, openly lie or put pressure on "authority", claim that he was misunderstood.
Having committed an ugly act:
- will blame everyone around for this, but will never admit his unseemly role;
- to mutual acquaintances and friends he will tell his version of events without feeling any remorse.
He doesn't care about the truth when he needs to "save face."